I recently came across the best piece of advice that former Pepsi CEO and badass working mom, Indra Nooyi ever received:
My father was an absolutely wonderful human being. From him, I learned to always assume positive intent. Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent. You will be amazed at how your whole approach to a person or problem becomes very different. When you assume negative intent, you're angry. If you take away that anger and assume positive intent, you will be amazed. Your emotional quotient goes up because you are no longer almost random in your response. You don't get defensive. You don't scream. You are trying to understand and listen because at your basic core you are saying, "Maybe they are saying something to me that I'm not hearing."
This works even better at home. When your kids screw up, assume that they were trying their hardest. Become curious about what they are struggling with and how you can all be better.
Because honestly, I’m just sick of yelling. Something else has to work.