It's Not All or Nothing

On Tuesday, Chloe's school went on a blueberry picking field trip. I signed up to volunteer - excited to spend the morning with her. On Monday, I looked at my calendar and the panic set in. I had too much work to fit in a 5-hour weekday excursion. The school had enough chaperones without me, so I canceled. I felt horrible. Guilt created a story about how disappointed Chloe would be. I sat her down in the Living Room for the 'big discussion,' preparing for tears. It turns out

Yes, a study to make you feel less guilt

Say 'No' to Guilt As a working mom, it’s easy to feel guilty about not spending enough time with our kids. Please, stop. A recent study shows that the amount of time a mom spends with kids between 3 and 11 has no relationship to how they turn out -- academically, emotionally or behaviorally. On top of that, working mothers are spending as much time today with their kids as stay-at-home moms did in the early 1970s. Want to know what the study found does affect your kids develo

Guilt is a choice

The best piece of advice I received when pregnant: 'Guilt is a choice.' It rewrote the script in my head and put me in control. Feeling a bout of mom-guilt? Try this: Take the long view. You will be a great mom and great at your job - just rarely on the same day. Look at your overall week or month. Surround yourself with other working moms. Guilt is rooted in isolation. Be vulnerable. Share your story with another mom -- trust me, she's been there. Celebrate your wins. Change