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Act How You Want to Feel

Updated: Jan 8, 2019

One of my favorite tips from Gretchen Rubin is 'Act how you want to feel.' Our actions and feelings feed off each other, and it's far easier to control your actions that your emotions. The science backs it up. Even Botox has been shown to reduce anger because people can't scowl. Here are some examples in my life:

Everyday of my maternity leave, I spent 3 minutes putting on makeup. It was a small action that made me feel in control and together even though I was far from that.

  • If I'm stressed, I smile for 60 seconds. The effectiveness of this simple act shocks me every time. I always feel calmer and happier.

  • If I feel like I have nothing left to give, I do the smallest of favors to a stranger -- holding the door for them or complementing their haircut. 

Today, check in with yourself. How do you feel? What small action can you take? Savor that cup of coffee, list what you like about someone who annoys you, or get that Botox. No judgement here.

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"Change your mindset on a stressful situation. Take it as an opportunity to test your control over your emotions.  "


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