How to be your own work valentine (Pt. 2)

Here are a few more tips from my Forbes interview on how to have self-love at work. Being your own work Valentine isn’t about conversation hearts and red roses--it’s about appreciating who you are at work and beyond and letting that color your workdays. List Your Accomplishments: Micro Edition Before you wrap up your workday, make a quick list of all the things you did today. Gretchen Rubin calls this your “Ta-Da List,” and it’s a powerful, visible affirmation of your accompl

How to be your own work valentine

Flowers, chocolates, singing telegrams... some Valentine’s Day delights are just sweeter (and less weird) when they come from somebody else, especially at the office. But there’s plenty you can do for yourself when it comes to at-work self-care. I’m not talking about hand cream and a face mask, I’m talking about how you can treat yourself to build self-confidence, set boundaries, be a better leader, and grow creatively. I spoke to Kari Clark, Founder and CEO of Uplift, a plat

Why It's So Hard

Recently I was talking to another founder about why starting a company is so hard. She said, "You are just doing everything for the first time. Even once you figure something out, you iterate, so everything is new." It reminded me of being a new mom. Everything is new. Once you figure something out, your baby (and situation) changes. Just recognizing why it was so hard made me feel better and show myself some self-compassion. Hopefully it helps you a bit, too. #selflove #s

Only Two Months Left

We have two months left in this decade. Two months left before the futuristic-sounding 2020. How has your life changed over the past ten years? In 2009, I had just graduated from business school. Since then, I’ve gotten married, lost my dad, had two kids, worked eight years at Google, and founded this company. Damn. So today, just do a quick reflection. Where were you 10 years ago? What have you accomplished since? Celebrate yourself for a minute. #grateful #selflove

Self-love is...

Self-love is… Starting the day with a tall glass of water Locking the bathroom door Noticing one thing you like about yourself each time you look in the mirror Buying fresh flowers Taking three deep breaths Remembering a time when you kicked some ass Hiring a TaskRabbit to do that task you’ve been dreading Asking for a hug Listening to your favorite song Letting a compliment from someone else fully sink in Doing something you loved to do before kids Putting on the red lipstic

The Power of the Stories We Tell Ourselves

Almost weekly, I’ve been having a bad night of sleep— too much stress and travel. I’m working diligently on fixing this, but in the meantime, I also want to reduce its impact on my life. Usually, this lack of sleep derails my next day. I’ll overeat and take up unhealthy habits. What if I changed the story I was telling myself? What if it went from “I’m tired therefore I have no willpower” to “I’m tired, so I need to treat myself with extra kindness, especially in the f

Get in Your Self-talk Reps

Between fundraising and sales, I’m always putting myself out there. It’s hard. So, I’ve added a little ‘oomph’ to my workouts. Each time I do a hard rep with my weights, I say an affirmation: “You deserve this.” “You are changing lives.” “You’ve built an incredible business.” The combo of exercise and self-talk makes both more powerful. By the end, I feel invincible. So this week, where can you get your self-talk reps in? During your yoga class? While you take the stairs

You Are Awesome

Recently I've noticed myself slipping into a bad habit—not owning my awesomeness. Congrats on getting to the 2nd round of the Echoing Green fellowship. Yeah, but 400 other people are still in the running. Love that sweater. It's just Zara. You seem to be killing it with your business. But, I still need to do [enter a huge list of to-dos] This. Needs. To. Stop. Today's challenge: Say a simple "Thank you" and then shut up. No explanations or disclaimers. Then let it sink in.

Treat Yo'Self

I love getting my hair blown out. Great hair makes me feel like a million bucks, and I can get mine to last for 5 days thanks to the magic of dry shampoo. On my way into work at Google, I would stop at Dry Bar for a quick blowout on Mondays while I did my weekly planning on my laptop. What are the little moments in your life that make you feel like a queen? Is it burning a nice candle? Buying yourself fresh flowers? Or, simply sleeping in? Make a list. Then try to incorporate

How I stopped giving a f*ck at Forty

This week I turned 40. (My daughter, Chloe and I share the same birthday.) I took the day to pause -- to reflect and experience how I felt about moving into another chapter of life. Honestly, I'm excited. Every year I feel like I'm becoming a better version of myself. I learn, add new dimensions, and evolve. The more I interview moms in the 40's, I've realized that the older you get, the less you give a f*ck about what others think. This is always a good thing. So here's to b

We All Have Bad Days

I hate to admit this, but I have sat, crying on my bathroom floor asking myself why I became a mom.  I was exhausted, stretched too thin and dealing with a toddler melt down that broke me. I love my kids.  They are the best thing that ever happened to me on so many levels.  But, it's hard.  It's really, really hard.  Almost every mom I know has said they've had a similar moment (if not more). I am hoping that some of Uplift's tips can help reduce the frequency -- encourage yo

The SOS Checklist

So, yesterday I had a horrible day.  Had frustrating experiences with co-workers that felt all-consuming.  I felt stuck in a bad mental place. My new approach to each time I feel stress or a set-back is to ask myself -- how can I use this as a time to practice what I preach? So I took out my "SOS checklist" and started practicing self-care, slowing down and looking for micro-moments to feel grateful for. I had to do around 10 of them before I felt anything click, but then it