Our kids are mirrors

Chloe freaks out when she makes a mistake. Like whales on the floor sobbing, making minor mistakes so much worse. The scary part is that I see myself in her. I see me beating myself up for mistakes that in the big picture, don’t matter. Kids are such mirrors.


I heard a great question for how to examine your life from psychologist Ester Perel — “What is my little girl learning from me now?” When I beat myself up, what is she learning? When I don’t prioritize myself, what is she learning? When I get stressed, what is she learning?


This question brings out the best in you. What are you teaching your kids by the way you are living your life?


PS: Please share any tips on reducing perfectionism in kids.